By Shawn Weber, FRI Co-founder

One of the greatest days of my life was when I decided to give up litigating.

Another great day was when I took status on my very last litigated divorce case.  No longer do I need to ask a person in black robes for a day off.  I call all of the shots in my work and LOVE it!

Declare your independence from litigation!

I litigated for years and found that while I was fairly good at it, the practice brought out the worst in me.

Before a trial, my family would notice my grumpiness.  I seldom slept well and gained weight.  Even when I “won,” it didn’t feel like a win. It was awful.

Finally things came to a head.  I quit accepting litigation cases cold turkey.  I’d be lying if I said it wasn’t scary.  It was terrifying!  But once I made the commitment, there was never any going back.

Peacemaking Only!

Today, my practice is only about Alternate Dispute Resolution (ADR – Also known as Consensual Dispute Resolution).  I do mediation, Collaborative Practice, neutral settlement conferences and negotiated settlement.  I’ll pretty much do any family law work as long as I don’t need to cross the threshold to the courtroom.  At first, there was a real financial hit.  With litigation, just a few cases could make my year.  I needed more ADR cases to get the same revenue.  But with some recalibrating, I started replacing the revenue out-of-court cases.  Now, I’m making more money than I did before.  Most importantly, I’M HAPPY!

With litigation, I always had a feeling I was doing more harm than good.  Families suffer when people do their divorce at court.  It’s not the court’s fault.  It’s just that an adversarial system is really a poor way to resolve family issues. Peacemaking processes, however, make a difference for the better.

The Transformative Moment

I live for that “transformative moment” where warring spouses find a way forward.  There’s no better high than getting into the world the people are experiencing, digging deep and finding pathways for settlement.  To see family in crisis find a way to peace is the greatest feeling.  Helping people protect their kids and pocketbook from conflict is so awesome I would do it for free!  (The best part is people actually paying me for this awesomeness.)

So, do you feel trapped in a litigation career?  Don’t worry.  There’s a way out!  If you are willing to try and take a leap of faith, you can declare your independence from litigation forever.  Come on in!  The water’s fine!

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